I just want the person who posted the poem below to know that they are not alone.....there are 5 other people in this family who are going thru the same thing and feel the exact same way at any given moment. We are a family who has experienced an extreme, intense loss and it has affected every aspect of our lives. Each of us deals with our grief in different ways but we are all experiencing grief. No one ever loves you like your mother. We will never be loved that way again in our lives... we have lost the perfect and unconditional love that only a parent can give us. We have lost a friend, counselor, secret keeper and cheerleader. No one will ever love us so unconditionally ever again. The very foundation of our family has been shaken. Never before have we been in the world without at least one of our parents. We may feel insecure, vulnerable, anxious. we are on our own...we have lost direction, guidance and security. It hurts....it hurts a lot.... Spouses may not fully understand, children and friends may not fully understand but we do. The grief, pain and hurt can be overbearing at times but this does not mean that we cannot function. It does not mean that we will fall apart. What it does mean is that we now have to contend with a new set of circumstances in a new relationship with the world and with each other. We must redefine ourselves and our family. But most importantly we must do it together, as a team...as a family. We must come together as a unit and look to each other, lean on each other for help and support. Don't build up walls around yourself, let others in. We are the ones who love you and know intimately what you are going through. We are the ones still here to help each other thru a most difficult time. Let us in, don't shut us out....Allow yourself to grieve openly and with us. Don't be alone.
And if that doesn't help...anti depressants are a wonderful thing when you need them....seriously.
:) di
